In Memory…

As the wedding gets closer I’m getting more and more excited. But I’m also thinking about the fact that my brother will be walking me down the aisle…(totally excited about that too) and not my dad.

He died when I was six years old. Sucks for young children to experience death at an early age. It’s not easy but life goes on. I miss him still. That was 22 years ago and I remember it like it was yesterday.

Man. Tearing up as I write this. So glad that God has been such a great father to me always. Can’t help but think though what my dad would think of me. Do I make him proud? Would he have loved my husband like his own son or would he give him a hard time because he doesn’t want to part with the apple of his eye 🙂 That’s funny. I think he would have given him a hard time.

Nevertheless, I am strong because of my experiences. And I am smiling because my brother (another important man in my life) will have the opportunity to give me away.

Bittersweet. But definitely sweet. This wedding will allow me to be with those who have blessed our lives. And those who have passed on will be smiling down. I miss my dad more and more as the big day gets closer but I am loved more than words can express and THAT makes me smile.

Bachelorette Chronicles

Welp. This weekend is one where I will dance on tables, drink champagne, laugh with my girls, reminisce on good times, cry happy tears, eat good food, wear fabulous dresses, dance until I can’t anymore (on tables) all in the name of being single for the last time (and I do mean last time!)

My girls are taking me to a secret location for the weekend. The secret part still makes me smirk. Still can’t believe they’ve managed to talk to me almost daily without spilling the beans! I thought there would be at least one snitch. *sigh* I was wrong. So here I am, trying to ask all the right questions so I can ruin the surprise. I know, I know. Why would I want to ruin the surprise. It’s a control thing for me. I could elaborate, but this post is not about my control tendencies hehe.

Wedding Chronicles

Our wedding is less than 20 days away. Yay! I’m convinced that if you can plan a wedding, then you can pretty much do anything! hehe. It’s true! I am ready to discuss with anyone who would like to challenge me on that. Even though we will be engaged for one year on May 4th, I did not start the planning process until around late August/early September. And here we are…18 days away from spending a ton of money for a huge party that features us as the celebrity guests. Sweet deal I think…until you get down to all the little details that MUST be perfect for the day to be PERFECT.

Now, I’m not one of those women that have planned my wedding day since I was a little girl…really…not me at all. I’m not one to get my hopes up. I like to go with the flow when it comes to relationships. Mainly because not all relationships work out. When I met my fiancée, I knew he would be my husband, but I didn’t get my hopes up, because you never know who or what God has in store for you. So, I prayed about it, and went on dating, and experiencing the love of this wonderful man I’m about to marry. It took 3 years, but he proposed and I’m ready to get hitched.

Ok, back to the wedding planning process. I started with grand, expensive ideas until I realized that my ideas were just expensive. My goal is to live comfortably after the wedding is over. No debt, no stress after May 17th! And we are going to make that happen for real yall. No jokes! hahaha *nervous laugh*

I plan to write all about my wedding experience from a “before and after” perspective. This post is the “before”…

Here is what I’ve learned…

Even though your guests know RSVP is important, they don’t always do it … ugh.

Everyone will expect to receive an invitation…even if they met you only 2 minutes ago. I have responded to many Facebook messages that said “Where is my invitation?” Ugh.

Weddings are expensive. And that’s all I will say about that…for fear of hyperventilating at this moment, at the thought of how much money we are spending, even though we are low compared to most weddings. The only way you won’t think weddings are expensive — you own a money tree that constantly produces money for anything you want. Plus that’s what every wedding vendor/venue thinks anyway. I should have started saving for my wedding at birth.  ugh.

Stay tuned for other things I’ve learned. These are just the top 3.

The Future Mrs.